Today, my prayer was focussed specifically on forgiveness. As I prayed, I acknowledged to God that a person never apologized to me. This is what I felt in my spirit...
Stop waiting for an apology.
Forgiveness does not require an apology from the person who has offended or
hurt you. Forgiveness is an internal process. It starts and ends within
you.
Sometimes the apology
you hear is merely a form of manipulation. The person is telling you they are
sorry just to tell you what you want to hear. It is only to pacify you. They aren’t
really apologetic for what they've done. They are just doing what they feel
they need to do to get themselves back into their "position" in your
life. They are using the words they believe you want to hear to manipulate you.
A verbal apology does
not necessarily mean the person regrets their action. Words and action must
match to make an apology meaningful. With or without these words, you
can begin the process of healing and forgiveness. Forgiveness is not really for
that person anyway.
Yes, it may feel good
when we apologize to someone and they accept our apologies. But when you are
the person who has been offended, forgiveness does not have to begin when the
apology is received. You don't have to wait for it. You can begin forgiveness today. And I say begin today,
because forgiveness is a process. The feelings you have of anger and or
resentment may come up again. And when they do you forgive again.
Forgiveness does not
mean the person gets to reclaim the space they held in your life before.
Sometimes forgiveness can come with standards and boundaries. Meaning in my
heart,you no longer hold what that person has done against them. However, they no longer
have the same position they had in your life before the issue. You make a conscious decision to love that person from a
distance.
This is especially
true for abusive and toxic relationships. It is absolutely okay to forgive and
walk away. You do not have to put yourself back in the position to be hurt
again physically or emotionally. However, what you do have to do is release
those feelings of anger and resentment in your heart. The only person it's really hurting
is you.
Let It Go. Release the
baggage and watch how high are you sore without that burden weighing you down.
After prayer & writing, I made myself a cup of Yogi Sweet Tangerine Positive Energy Tea and this message was attached to my tea bag.
"People who love are forgiving."
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Written 6/24/18
